I sent this as an email to people on my subscriber list, but thought I would also make it public here..
Is it time to press pause on the world for a bit?
It's been a difficult few days since the events at Christchurch on Friday. The grief of trauma imposed on any members of our global community is a hard thing to digest, and to discover that the perpetrator is an Australian created a visceral reaction of heart break for me.
Over the weekend we showed our support to the Muslim community by attending the vigil at the Marion Mosque, along with many others. We were struck by the grace and gratitude shown by the Islamic community, and their sense of hospitality and welcome as they handed out freely bottles of water to all who were standing in the hot afternoon sun as we gathered in their car park.
On Monday I gave a scheduled presentation through my day job as a counsellor at Flinders Uni to students on vicarious trauma. Later that day I discovered that my teenage sons had seen part of the footage of the killings, thanks to modern technology and teenage curiosity. I don't know about others, but for me, sometimes it can feel like too much all at once.
And of course I started thinking about how yoga can help in traumatic events. And I remembered our class from last week on Pratyahara, the fifth limb of yoga.
Pratyahara is withdrawing the senses inwards and away from the business of the world. The Yoga Sutra tells us that when we encourage the senses to draw inward, we can glimpse the inner light and dwell contentedly within. It is a perfect practice for when things are overwhelming, distressing or traumatic.
It doesn’t mean bury your head in the sand, or pretend that everything is perfect. Instead it encourages us to PAUSE. To retreat into the security of our inner world, to reflect. It is not a way to escape distress, but it is a way to digest distressing experiences.
Taking some time out of the world then helps us to re-enter with grace, to help us see clearly what needs to be done, and helps give us courage to act with conviction towards our values, for example to be able to call out racism, or work towards a world which is more tolerant, more just, or more sustainable, or whatever your calling is to contribute to the world.
Like much of yoga, it exists in paradox. Sometimes, only by withdrawing and pressing pause on the world, can we be effective in creating change in our world.
The practice of Pratyahara is often implicit rather than explicit in yoga. One of the main practices we do to encourage going inwards is yoga nidra, where we are encouraged to relax the body deeply, and rest in our inner being. There are also specific practices to gradually dissolve the senses into each other, like we practised last week. I also use a brief pratyahara practice during the day, sometimes just as simple as dropping in to my body and listening to my heart beat.
We will keep exploring these practices in class as well as gentle movements and nourishing massage to support our physical bodies. You are very welcome to come to the Church on Thursday, even if you haven’t been to yoga for a while. Perhaps this is the perfect time to take time out for yourself, to pause, and reconnect with your inner world.
In reality, all you need to practice are yourself and some carved out space and time. In practice, as with everything in life, we use variety of tools to assist us to practice yoga asana and meditation.
What tools are best depends on your intentions for your practice, your body and your available resources. I thought I would share how I use my favourite yoga tools and some thoughts on the pros and cons of common tools.
Yoga mats are useful to:
I use a range of mats, nothing fancy, and prefer my oldest mat I have had for 15 years which is grippy rather than sticky...
Mats that are grippy and sticky can sometimes inhibit smooth movement. I have found that the rectangular mats can make my practice linear and defined to a specific shape. I have taught classes and observed how people would modify their stance to the shape of the mat they were using in ways that were unhelpful.. and often unknowingly. More and more I find I prefer to put a blanket down to practice so I can glide more and move in a more of a spiral pattern.
Bolsters are cylindrical firm cushions that have a variety of uses. I use mine for sitting on in meditation as my hips must be higher than my knees or they hurt to the point I can't walk well after a long period of sitting. I also use the bolster in restorative poses, especially supported child pose and twists and backbends. I also enjoy having one under my knees in savasana.
Cons. They can be expensive to buy. They can take up space in your house and are awkward to store. There are alternatives such as using extra blankets, cushions, pillows or even chairs.
The yoga blankets I use are heavy but soft cotton. They fold up in a range of ways and are mainly a support in restorative poses. I can fold one high enough to support myself in meditation, see note about hips higher than knees above...I also lie a blanket flat on the floor for rolling practices and as a cover in savasana to keep warm.
Cons. Not all blankets will do all things. Some are just good for covering and not so good for props. Again, special blankets can be expensive and need storage space.
I use weighted eye pillows in a range of ways. People may be familiar with my practice to rest an eye pillow in each hand during relaxation. This is my favourite use as the weight helps the hands relax, which also softens the chest. I also like the weight of an eye pillow over my eyes to encourage relaxation through the eyes.
Cons. Not everybody likes weight on the eyes, or to have their eyes covered at all. Sometimes the eye pillows are scented which can be off putting for some. A light scarf can also be used if it's a gentle blocking of light that's required.
A yoga block can be helpful in exploring postures without over extending yourself. I often use blocks in triangle for example, to stop myself from the temptation of putting my hand on the floor. This helps me focus on the side rib opening here. I also like to support my knees with blocks when I am sitting with my knees out, or to engage muscles such as in the inner thighs in bridge.
Cons. They are not always as helpful as I think they will be, and often I get them out and don't use them.
My yoga belts are long with buckles. I use them to help support my body and to lengthen my arms. They are also good to help create an even space between the arms, when moving the shoulders in various ways.
Cons. Sometimes they can encourage over efforting, as they can make it tempting to pull our body into shape.
I use the insight timer app. I have an open enquiry yoga and meditation practice, so I don't usually plan out what I am going to do although sometimes I do. The timer helps set an intention and boundary. I use two settings - a meditation timer usually for 24 minutes with a beginning and ending bell....I have found the bells on insight timer to be quite authentic sounding. This app allows me to use a different preset setting for my movement practice, and I have set it up with with extra bells so I can move into relaxation after about 25 minutes of practice. This app also includes some ambient music which sometimes helps me find rhythm for my practice.
Cons. You have to spend time setting them, they require a smart phone and can be distracting.
Any tools that you use for your practice are optional, and must support rather than distract from your practice.
I am keen to hear what tools you use, how you use them and why?
Yoga is a process, not a thing. It's not about what you do, but more about how you do it. Practising mindfulness while you move can help you integrate different aspects of yourself...the nervous system, muscles, fascia, the immune system, our minds, the subtle body of prana...Helping you to have a healthy immune system, be emotionally and mentally resilient with a sense of well-being and choice in how your act.
This is possible when we slow down, develop mindful awareness, move with intention and allow ourselves to feel our body and synchronise with the breath.
Slow movements paired with the breath, and intentional holds are emphasised in Banksia yoga classes. Classes are different to a fitness focused class, but you will still find ways to develop strength, flexibility and grace of movement.
There are 3 main benefits of practising yoga in this way:
1. Slow practices build vagal tone in the body (our emotional brain in the gut), which helps us develop a healthy nervous system and increases our emotional resilience,
2. Slowing down increases proprioception and interoception skills, which increases our immune function, as we become more aware of how our body responds to internal and external stimulus.
3. When we move slowly, we can be more mindful, which strengthens the parts of your brain responsible for concentration, considered action and empathy.
Just like cleaning our teeth, mindful movement is a life long commitment. We can't expect to achieve the benefits without practice, just like we can't expect our teeth to stay healthy without regular brushing.
The good news is there is always a way we can show up for ourselves, and slowing down also makes it easier to find our own way to be in our body regardless of our circumstances. We can adapt the practice for heat, cold, grief, anxiety, tiredness, physical injury and illness. What is important is that we show up - regularly and with kindness to ourselves.
Join me - classes start January 31
As I get (ahem) older, my yoga practice is gravitating less towards what can I do with my body, and more towards how can I do less with my mind.
Meditation is my main practice. Movement is still important of course, but I have let go of poses, and their names and am more interested in strengthening my body for stillness, as well as moving with ease.
There are many reasons meditation is so important to me. As I practice more I am gaining a deeper understanding of my own mind scape, the types of habits, thoughts and beliefs that shape my inner world, and then my behaviour. This means I have greater choice to vary my behaviour as I understand my thoughts.
I practice a range of techniques, many of them based on tantric shaivism or tantric buddhism. I also practice the wheel of awareness developed by Dan Siegel, an expert in neuroscience.
This wheel of awareness practice is based on three pillars. I put kind intention at the forefront. This is where we develop the capacity to be compassionate towards our selves and others. My spiritual teachers often promote this pillar by dedicating the fruits of any meditation practice to the benefit of all beings.
The other two pillars are focused attention, or concentration and open attention.
Focused attention uses mindfulness and strengthens the mind by bringing your awareness to a cho se en point over and over. You can you chose an external focus, such as an object, or a sound such as a mantra, or you can use an internal focus such as your body or breath.
Open attention is a pillar I am still understanding. This I where we soften our attention and allow everything to come and go.
According to Dan Siegel, these three pillars help us to integrate the functional of the mind, which leads us to be more present to our lives. He sites a range of benefits from this including improved immune function, reduce inflammation, reduced stress response. One of the main benefits for me is increased emotional regulation skills, and an increased ability to chose our actions in the world.
I am offering by donation summer meditation sessions in January, focusing on the three pillars. Every one is welcome to join me.
I consider myself to be a constant student of yoga. I am grateful that I have opportunities to share my passion through my teaching, but I am also extremely appreciative to have access to teachers and teachings that continually deepen my understanding of yoga, and enable me to have an embodied and meaningful practice for my life.
Here are my thoughts on some of my most significant moments of this year...
The 5 day silent retreat I attended with Mal Huxter earlier in the year, was a game changer for me. Not only was the time itself extremely valuable, but it had a lasting qualitative effect on my daily meditation practice. I experienced a true light bulb moment following learning mindful walking. When I returned to real life I was able to shift my growing frustration towards my slow walks with my elderly golden retriever to a time where I value our morning meanders as an opportunity to take notice of the sounds and smells of the world, with appreciation and wonder.
Although, I love the natural world, I also am online a bit and feel fortunate to have an internet connection and access to world class teachers. I have continued my studies in classical tantric yoga texts and practices online with Christopher Hareesh Wallis, who has been a major influence in my yoga for a few years now. He is an academic in the language of Sankskrit and has translated many of these beautiful texts in ways that are accessible and meaningful for our modern world. Practices emphasising breath pause and subtle awareness of vibration are now core practices for me, and assist me to find moments of stillness, even at lifes most challenging and busy times. These practices help me remain in my centre when I speak to people in extreme distress in my day job as a counsellor, when I parent my four children, when I argue with my partner, or when I am scared about my ageing parents.
My yoga teacher mentor and friend Kristine Kaoverri Weber also released some online courses this year on the neurobiology of yoga, which have been satisfying the geeky part of me that is curious about how and why these practices can be effective. This learning has also helped my ability to explain the benefits and of slow, mindful yoga to others. I also now have a better understanding of why and how I need to continually adapt my practice to my peri- menopausal body, and love the opportunities to connect with my changing body through my yoga practices.
Thank you for being part of this journey with me. I would love to hear your reflections on what you have learned this year through your yoga and meditation practice.
Many of you who have practised yoga know that it "works". That it helps navigate the ups and down of life. We can ease physical pain with yoga practices, ride emotional highs and lows and navigate complex mental challenges all with Yoga.
But how does it work? How can one thing do all of this?
By not being "one thing".
Yoga is an umbrella term for an integrated system. It uses a variety of tools - movement, breathing, mindful awareness, relaxation training, mantra and meditation. Together these tools influence our human system.
The human system as defined by yoga is the complex inter relationship between our inner and outer worlds. I have written about the Koshas previously, and this model really is a good way to understand ourselves.
We understand that we are multi dimensional and that all of the layers, external, physical, emotional, energetic and mental each other. Permeating all layers of our being is our core essence that is inherently joyful contentment.
Yoga teaches us that we forget this core layer, or more accurately that this is obscured from us by obstacles in all the layers. Think bad posture, poor breathing, emotional dis-regulation, obsessive thoughts etc. All of these, regular everyday things prevent us from accessing our inherent essence.
Yoga and its various interoceptive practices help us to see and understand what our obstacles are. We can then learn what it is that we need that supports us to be well, content and at ease in life. Remembering of course that as life goes on, our obstacles also change. The practice of Yoga offers us ongoing opportunities for self discovery.
As obstacles break down we can then more freely taste that pervading essence of contented joy. The goal of tantric yoga practices was to learn to live in this state as a default state of freedom, to realise that we are the universe experiencing itself. Tantric Buddhism would call it enlightenment. You might just call it being ok with who you are.
Whatever your goal of yoga is, whether it is to manage back pain, grief, anxiety, or for preventative self care, or for spiritual awakening, know that you can use any of the practices offered by this wonderful holistic method towards how and who you want to be in the world, and it will most probably work!
Well, another September has flown past. Thank you to all those who participated in Self Care September in some way - those who came to the workshop of September 1, the wild flower walk on September 30, classes in between, or who followed along with the Self Care September face book group. Your feedback and encouraged was very appreciated.
Through the month, I practised the suggestion from my e-book every day, and every few days, shared a video of my tips and thoughts on the various mindful activities.
So what were my key take away thoughts this year?
Firstly, I realised that definitions are vital. In the workshop we talked a lot about how I define Self Care as an intentional act to nourish all the layers of our being. The layers of our being were discussed in the workshop and I have also discussed them here, but briefly they are:
The self care practices were designed to nourish us throughout all those layers, not just focus on one aspect of ourselves, such as our mental well being, or physical health. But part of the definition was about making self care intentional.
This year, I discovered that setting a strong intention was so important to maintain the momentum for practising. For those who struggled with the practices, it may have been this step that requires more attention. To hold an intention is to make self care a priority, even if days are busy, and things are tough and our body is sick.
My second take away was there needs to be a balance between planned activities and spontaneous moments. Often it is the small snatches of time where we can activate our intention to practice self care. I emphasised brief or micro meditations this year, over the longer practices. However having a longer practice at least once a week makes it more likely that the smaller practices will be available and effective for us. Things like pausing for a moment of breath, or feeling the wind on your face, or intentionally rolling the shoulders, are all micro practices of self care.
Thirdly, I was reminded that mindfulness is about being open and curious at all times. During our final day's walk where some of us came together to be guided through Belair national park, we paused often. We looked at the small details of the native wildflowers that are so easy to walk straight on past. We learnt how to identify a range of plants, but looking closely, by being curious, and by staying open. This was a great lesson in mindfulness for me, and a great reminder that we can apply mindfulness to every activity in life.
I would love to hear your thoughts, not only on how the month went, but how you are going to maintain self care as a priority moving forward.
The Self Care September group will remain on facebook and has a number of resources, including my various video thoughts and micro practices. You are welcome to head over and have a look at any time. Please give Banksia Yoga a like while you are there!
Many of you who have attended my classes will know that I like to often theme classes around the seasons and the natural turnings of nature.
Often in our busyness, we become very distant from nature and its tempos. We use artificial lighting and artificial stimulants so our natural internal cycles can be disrupted.
By noticing, and acknowledging the seasons of nature in a yoga class, it also gives us a chance to notice and honour our own natural cycles.
Some people love winter and the freshness of the breeze outdoors makes them feel alive and energised, and yet as soon as it becomes hot they need to slow down and retreat. Some people are the opposite.
In yoga we learn to tune in to both ourselves, and our environment. If we go completely inward, we can loose touch with the unfolding of life. Similarly, if we are too focused externally, too busy, we loose touch with ourselves.
My practice varies with the weather. I might do longer holds of strength building poses in winter to build heat in my body for example, as well as more restorative poses. In spring, I like to start being a little more active, using pandiculation and somatics to ensure that all of my body start to get moving. In Summer, I enjoy slow sequences, often with forward folds, and in autumn I like to prepare my body with practices that strengthen my immune system.
I like to honour the marking points of the turnings of the seasons, the Solstices and Equinox’s with special meditations as a way of re-attuning myself to my own rhythms.
The Spring equinox marks the time where there is an equal amount of day and night time. Soon, the days will be getting longer. Plants will start to put out new growth, and flowers smile at us from trees, grasses and every where in between.
In the coming spring equinox class I hope to bring us to a point of balance through the use of symmetrical and asymmetrical poses, becoming more active in our bodies and starting to release any stagnation from winter slowness. We will use a range of centring techniques to turn inwards, and end with a yoga nidra honouring opposites in nature and ourselves.
All welcome to join me.
Thursday September 20 @7pm
Here are my top 5 tips for offering yourself Self care. We will discuss and practice techniques for all of these areas at the Slice of Self Care workshop Saturday September 1 from 1pm - 4.30pm st the Upper Sturt Soldiers Memorial Hall.
1. Plan and prioritise ….We are all busy. Self Care doesn’t happen by accident.
2. Build positive emotions. Cultivate attitudes of friendliness, compassion, gratitude and kindness.
3. Take care of your body/mind. Exercise, eat well, drink water, practice mindfulness, laugh often.
4. Develop healthy resilience. Notice how you bounce back after a bad day. Accept that there will be challenges and set backs. Acknowledge difficult emotions and thoughts without getting caught up in them.
5. Create meaning. What gives your life purpose? How can you contribute to the benefit of others? What can you share from your Self?
As part of my day job, as well as speak to individuals about a range of things that are important to them in their life, I also give training on mental health. One of the things that I am always reminded of is that mental health is a continuum.
At one of the continuum we could be languishing, very mentally unwell. In this place we may not be functioning to our full potential. We may struggle to sleep well, eat, attend social functions, go to work, get out of bed. Our ability to deal with crisis may be diminished, and the number of crisis we face may increase.
Somewhere, in the middle of the spectrum, we are surviving. This is where we might be going through the motions, but there is still a lot of struggle. Things might be difficult. We might use a lot of caffeine, alcohol or other coping strategies, that may be good for a short while, but may not work out too well over the long term.
On the other end of the spectrum, we are thriving. Things are good. Not because every thing is perfect, but because we have the physical, emotional and mental resources to meet any challenges that come up. We have a sense of purpose and connection to life, and we are able to give back to others in a meaningful way.
Often, we move around this scale, and that is normal. Often when we feel overwhelmed, depleted we are in the surviving range. And it is exactly because we are too busy just keeping up with our to do lists, not sleeping well, putting out spot fires that we might stay in this range. Often in survival mode, we feel separated from others, we believe the various internal narratives in our own heads and get stuck in the stories of how we think life should be. The last thing we can think of doing is some self care. It feels indulgent, a luxury we don’t have time or energy for.
But here’s the thing. Self care is what we know helps with good mental health and well-being. We know its not rocket science. And maybe it’s because the strategies are so simple that they seem so hard. Many strategies involve planning to make time for things we enjoy, to appreciate the positive things in life and be grateful for the small things.
So how can yoga and mindfulness help. Often yoga and meditation just become another thing on the “Should” pile…But often that’s because our models for what yoga and mindfulness are a bit skewed in our modern life. We often think of these practices are a thing we need to do, make time for, or add to our life. Yoga in its broad sense however is a state of being.
The practices of yoga, and mindfulness can take the form of informal, as well as formal.
When we think in this way, we can make little acts of self care a part of our everyday lives. And that will help us to thrive.